Pro Sessions with Khaos[Overview] [Location] [Experience] [Activities] [Implements and Equipment] [Protocol] [Scheduling] [Tribute] [Photography]
I will dominate most anyone who approaches me respectfully and is committed to abiding by my rules.
I will not come to your home, personal dungeon, or hotel room, unless you are an established client who has given me ample good cause to trust that your space will meet with my approval in terms of comfort, convenience, and personal safety.
I started out, as was the custom in those times, as a bottom, sponsored in by established members of the community, and put in my time volunteering at local dungeons and events as I "learned the ropes" from those more experienced than I.
Over time, I learned proper, scene etiquette, safety, negotiation skills, as well as the care, handling, and effective use of the various tools, implements, and toys of what it is that we do.
I am still an active member of the community and a regular volunteer at Seattle's Sex Positive Community Center, where I have been a volunteer since the beginning, and have held key leadership positions.
I can, and will gladly provide references on request, but, better still, I am well known in the community - All you have to do is ask around, and you are certain to find people who will share their experiences with and knowledge of me. I feel this is a better approach. That way you can be certain that you are getting a balanced view, rather than the possibility of my only sending you to those who I know will speak well of me. I am sure there are some who don't like me, but am equally certain that the majority of people you ask, even those who dislike me, will tell you that I am safe (if not necessarily completely "sane" - but where's the fun in that!?), trustworthy, and will always put the safety and well being of those in my charge before anything else.
While I will not touch your genitals or anus in a sexual fashion, you may be permitted, if it pleases me, to touch yourself and/or use sex toys, plugs, stretchers, and the like on yourself for my amusement.
Unless otherwise noted, I have the implements required for everything listed.
Biting, bondage (police style cuffs and manacles, leather/rubber wrist & ankle cuffs, chains, locks, medieval style restraints), breast/nipple teasing/torture, breath control, bloodplay, caning (sensual and otherwise), choking, cigar/hot ash play, cutting, decorative scarification, D/s, fear/terror play, fire cupping, fireplay, flogging, foot and boot worship & service, forced smoking, hair pulling, high protocol service, knifeplay, needles (play piercing/permanent piercing), mindfuck, personal service, punching, S&M, Sensual touch, slave training (positions, protocol, paces, etc), slicing/ripping clothes off, taking trophies (blood vials, panties, shredded/bloodied clothing, a lock of hair, ...??...).
Electricity (TENS/Violet wands/electric flyswatter, shock collars), rope - decorative and utilitarian, predicament bondage, cellpopping/microbranding, CBT, pussy torture, clamps, clothes pins, spanking, paddles, other thuddy and stingy impact toys (I have LOTS!!), take downs, kicking, being the villain, interrogations and torture, corporal punishment.
Small singletails, sutures, medical play, humiliation/degradation, forced feminisation, pet training, forced bisexuality, queer/trans prejudice play (*requires additional negotiation and safe signals*), strap-ons (*no anal/vaginal penetration*).
Implements and Equipment
Toys, restraints, etc.I plan to get some photos of all my toys and equipment up on the site as soon as I can. It will be a major undertaking and will take time, due to the sheer volume of items
I have managed to amass a great quantity of "tools" over the years, many of them custom made to order or hand made myself.
Among them are a wide assortment of floggers, from the deliciously "thuddy" to impossibly "stingy" and made from everything from leather, to horsehair, rope, rubber, and satin, crops, tawses, singletail whips, paddles of all shapes, sizes, and materials, whompers, Nerf bats, rubber hoses, slappers, canes, fur, silk, clamps, clips, clothespins, textured gloves, blindfolds, bongers, daggers, wartenberg wheels, needle hammers, needles galore - both piercing and hypos, scalpels, sutures, TENS, shock collars, electric flyswatters, a violet wand with LOTS of attachments, hundreds of feet of rope in varying colours and sizes, chains, shackles, manacles, cuffs, masks, hoods, blindfolds, gags, collars, leashes, branding and cell popping equipment, fire wands, fire cups, sensation toys, and all manner of other novelties and pervertibles.
If there are particular items you wish to be incorporated into a session, let me know. If, by some off chance, I don't have it, you have the option of bringing your own to be used, bringing it as a tribute gift, or otherwise assisting me in acquiring said item(s).
Items such as cock rings, chastity devices, or "insertables", unless they can be safely and thoroughly autoclaved or chemically sterilised, must be purchased by the client for their sole usage. These items may be brought to each session or left with me for safe keeping, where they will be stored in a sealed and labelled container, reserved for that client only.
BDSM FurnitureSo far, I have a bondage/massage table, a lovely cage, and an amazing, convertible, "portable dungeon", which can be configured as a St Andrews cross, rack, spanking bench, swing, CBT or pussy torture rack, suspension frame, and more.
All these items can be transported to most session locations.
When renting dungeon space, of course, there will be even more options, including additional cages, racks, GYN tables, bondage chairs, an isolation cell, and other items.
Rules and Protocol
You will be expected to arrive clean, well groomed, appropriately attired, and free from any sort of excessive scents, especially chemical fragrances. This means shower/bathe, wash your hair, brush your teeth, and tend to any odour prone areas before you make the trip. If you will be coming directly from work or a long trip, you may make arrangements with me (in advance!) to take care of these things immediately upon arrival, before the start of the actual session. This will count as part of your session time, but will be charged at half the per hour rate, as it does not require my direct attention.
ALWAYS mind your manners. You will be expected to treat me as a Sovereign/Goddess is to be treated at all times. Failure to do so runs the risk of being banished from my presence.
It is appropriate for tribute gifts and any tribute not paid in advance to be tendered at the beginning of each session.
There will be a short negotiation, emotional/mental/physical "check-in", and clarification at the beginning of each session, regardless of the extent of prior negotiations. It is important for me to know your frame of mind at the time, and to be aware of any issues which may crop up.
You should arrive well hydrated, at least reasonably well rested, and having eaten within a reasonable time frame before your scheduled session, unless we will be dining as part of your time with me. If you have not had a session with me before, it is preferred that you have a safe call set up. I also prefer to have an emergency contact for you. If you are uncomfortable providing me directly with that information, you should, at the least, have emergency contact information on your person, whether on your phone, in a pocket, left with the hotel front desk, etc.
If you have any allergies, health conditions (whether physical, mental, or emotional), injuries, sore spots, etc, they must be disclosed to me prior to any session, as well as any known "triggers" and information regarding appropriate measures to be taken in the event of an episode. If you are diabetic, asthmatic, or dependent on any medications, you will ensure that you have properly medicated, and that you have any life saving medications, quick glucose supply, inhalers, epi pens/kits, etc with you on site (not in your car!) and make certain that I know where they are and how to use them if needed.
All of these health and disclosure requirements are in place so that I can further ensure your safety, and make sure that, in the unlikely event of an emergency, I am able to get the right kind of help for you as quickly as possible. I don't like my toys to get broken.
Safe words/signals are to be used as a tool to alert me that something is about to or has gone wrong. They are not to be used as an attempt to control the session. I do not tolerate "topping from the bottom" unless that has been specifically negotiated, in which case, you will be given other verbal and non-verbal signals.
I also highly recommend reading this excellent article on meeting a Pro Domme for the first time. I don't actually mind if you aren't sure what you want, as noted earlier on this page, but the rest of the article is spot on!
Minors, animals, drunk/high people, dead people, or anyone else legally unable to give informed consent.
Non-consensually involving others.
This includes breaching the confidentiality of others or bringing anyone with you to a session without full disclosure to them and to me, beforehand.
ie: broken bones, sprains, head trauma, cuts requiring stitches (unless suturing is part of the scheduled session), or anything else that should be seen to in hospital.
Exchange of bodily fluids.
Scat, piss, vomit, or any other bodily waste play.
(including "teacher/mommy/daddy/aunt/incest/etc" type dynamics)
Sex and sexual touching.
No, there is no chance, whatsoever, of your being the special exception to this.
The only things I will do with your genitals involve CBT/PT (Yay!).
You are scheduling a session for professional domination, not hiring a sex worker. If you wish to hire a sex worker, there are many reputable ones to be found with some careful searching in your area.
As such, there will be no face sitting/queening, blowjobs, handjobs, fingering, "forcing" you to touch my genitals in any way whatsoever, worshipping my body in any sexual fashion, touching your body in a sexual fashion, etc. If you attempt to beg, cajole, guilt, or otherwise manipulate me into any of the above, including "accidental" touches, or "not being able to control yourself", it will immediately end the session, as well as any hope of future sessions with me.
(NOTE: Being unable to control an erection, vaginal lubrication, or ejaculation is understandable and won't end play. It may give me ammo to TORMENT you, and you may well be punished for climaxing without permission, but it will not be grounds for dismissal.)
Weekends and bank holidays tend to fill up especially quickly and are usually booked fairly far out. If you are not available during the week, it is recommended that you schedule as far in advance as you are able, in order to secure the day of your choice.
Before scheduling an initial session, you must submit a client application form, which is to be filled out completely and accurately. You should expect to be contacted via email within 24 - 48 hours with any additional questions or clarifications I may have for you. If I find you of sufficient interest, I will provide you with further instructions and available dates/times. Established clients may contact me directly, using the form(s) of communication I have provided and allowed.
Virtual sessions may be scheduled as little as an hour or two in advance, depending on my availability and convenience. Of course, the more lead time you provide, the higher the likelihood of my availability to favour you with my time and attention.
All session time after the initial 90 minutes is prorated in 15 minute increments.
Sessions may be less than 90 minutes, if time is limited, but this will not affect the minimum tribute for new clients.
Established clients in good standing may be able to schedule shorter sessions without the normal, minimum tribute, depending on availability of dungeon space.
A deposit of $250.00 toward the tribute must be paid at least 24 hours in advance, until a client is well established and remains in good standing. Cancelling a session less than 48 hours in advance will result in forfeiture of your deposit, except in cases of true emergency, in which case, it can be used toward a future session, less any cancellation fees paid to the reserved dungeon space or hotel.
I accept payment via PayPal, check, money order, or cash. PayPal is the preferred payment method. Checks and money orders must clear the bank at least 24 hours before the scheduled session.
It is customary and appropriate for a client to bring some token of appreciation to a session with a Domina, known as a tribute gift. This is much like the practise of bringing a host gift to a party. As with any gift, the more personal and well thought out the gift, the more it shows your thoughtfulness.
Tribute for virtual sessions is generally $150.00 per hour for private video chat, $120.00 per hour for phone, and $50.00 per hour for private chat or IM. All virtual sessions are calculated in 15 minute increments. Payment for the first 15 minutes must clear in advance of the session.
Photos containing any images of persons besides yourself require written permission from all parties before publishing or making available to the public in any form. This includes posting on profiles, blogs, tumblr, etc.
All photos may be used on my profiles or websites, but faces, distinctive marks, hair, and any other identifying features will be blocked, for your privacy, unless you give specific, written consent for the use of your likeness by filling out a model consent form, which will be provided to you at the time photos are taken.